I recently asked a question on facebook: "Have you looked at your life lately? Is there something you're doing that you shouldn't or something that isn't needed?". I didn't get many responses, okay I got Zero. I didn't get many likes on this one either. I was slightly taken away for a moment but then I realized why - It's a hard question and an even harder task.
Would you want some total stranger coming up to you and telling you that you're doing something wrong with your life? Of course not. You also wouldn't want someone to tell you that you're wasting your time with an endeavor.
People like to think they are perfect, we're not. I'm not. You're not. The cute barista is not, remember that one time they forgot the extra non-fat double shot of organic fruit milk?
Most everyone has something in their life they could do without. It may be something small, like staying up late for the daily show. Maybe it's something bigger, what about that "friend" who only drags you down and makes you feel bad. Others it's junk food, gambling, smoking, lying, being a jerk, porn, drinking, or too much xbox. The list could go on.
Not everything we do is "bad" for us in a physical/mental way some things are just time sinks that could have the energy focused elsewhere.
Roll the clock back 3 years. It's 2009. The night before thanksgiving. My sister's soon to be in laws were in town for the first time, as a family group we went out for Mexican for dinner. As was my tradition at the time, I got hammered on tequila and margaritas. On the way home, I had my then girlfriend stop so I could get beer. I was down 2 bottles before I made it back home. I vaguely remember some conversations taking place before I had to go "sleep". It was more like pass out drunk.
A switch went off some where, I don't know exactly why or how, but Thanksgiving day I decided to stop drinking. With the exception of 1 margarita, 10 shots of tequila, half a pitcher of Dos Equis and maybe 5 glasses of wine I haven't had a drink since then. With Zero alcohol since May 2011.
The mexican booze is a story for another day, maybe.
Now lets let time flow to October 2010.
I had a friend I was madly in love with. In reality I was so emotionally attached that it was bad for both of us. I chose to end the friendship. Granted I did things wrong and probably should of behaved better I did what I did. It's taken 2 years for us to be able to say hello in public without it being some weird cut the tension with a strand of hair thing.
Now back to my point. There's always something that is in your life that you need to re-evaluate. Those over attached bonds to things or friends may not be good for you. Your vice may not be good for you. Do you have a tendency to procrastinate before a project or event and then you get into a mad sleepless and angry fury? Yeah, that's not good for you either.
Some things you should just stop now, like smoking or getting drunk 4 nights a week. You know it's bad for you so strengthen up and stop. Ask for help if you need it.
Other things might require a bit more thought as it "is this bad for me". I don't have the answers for everything or everyone, but take a good hard look. See if there is anything in your life that's a negative, either turn it into a positive or let it go.
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